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Toxic Parenting within Families of Color. The Difference between Discipline and Abuse.

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When I was growing up, the person who was head of the household was always right in any situation. I usually would shrug it off and blame it on myself. We all need our parents to help us get our shit together. But there is a better way of handling the situation. It has come to the point where it is ok to be downright unnecessary towards your children. Don't get me wrong some kids nowadays need to be straightened out. But when are we going to draw the line saying that this is way too far? Let's be clear, having to experience the number of low blows on a giving basis myself, has put permanent emotional damage over the years. I had to find out what was causing this to continue. It seems to me that I was experiencing a common theme in my life growing up. That theme was emotional and verbal abuse. My entire life, I would never even think about being abused. I just thought it was how the other person knew how to communicate. But it all came to me when I started to sp...

Body Image. When is your own body good enough?

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From slim waist and small ankles to big butts and flat stomachs, we have forever been pressured to fix ourselves to the standard of what is considered beautiful. Since this is happening, more women are telling their daughters that who they are isn’t good enough. One of the reasons is those unrealistic expectations that are put on women all the time. You never know what the right way is because either way, it will be wrong. That is why women are never satisfied with their looks and tend to go into depression because of it. Having a slim figure has always been considered the most beautiful all around the world. You cannot blame consumers for being affected. Once you have millions of media outlets telling you your body isn't good enough, you start to believe this yourself. When you look at celebrities, they are contently changing their look. You would think they would be the most confident people in the world when they are the most insecure. It is hard being in their posi...

Bi phobia Why do we not treat others how we want to be treated?

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LGBT people have worked their way into acceptance in society. After all the craziness they have been through, more gays have been coming out. Appearing in shows such as Ru Paul Drag Race, Empire and etc. Gays have been able to showcase themselves on platforms to be a representation for the community. But just like in every kingdom, there is always drama underneath the service. There is always a person that does not get along with the other. Certain people just get along with who they have in common. People want to be in relationships with someone that understand their point of you. Not everyone in the LGBT community always understands each other's motives. They find it hard to trust certain people because they do not know what to expect. I was watching this old TV show called Tyra. There was this particular episode where they picked four people from all parts of the LGBT community. Tyra put them in a room to discuss how they really feel about each other. It was a surp...

Going to College. Is it for Business or for the Future?

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Have you ever wondered why you even went to college? For the amount of money you spent, you would think finding a job will be easy as soon as you get a degree. That is not the case for everyone out of college. Based on the pressure from people around you, you start to question what can you do in life. Advertisers all over the world say that college will give you a better life. When really it gives them large amounts of money to fill their pockets. Never wanted to have doubts in my education but ever since I have been dealing with the aftermath of graduating from college. I’m really starting to think is college for business or is it for our future? People all over the world get their kids prepared for college. It is one of those traditions for years where teenagers get to transform into being an adult. Parents get so excited when this event occurs to the point they expect it. So many parents love to brag about their perfect child being accepted to college. It...

The Divide Between Black and Latino Americans.What is the main reason?

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Being a fellow kid in the new millennium made me witness unions between latino and black americans. You saw it everywhere from Jennifer Lopez and Ja rule to Wyclef and Shakira. It was like black americans were essential to be connected to latino americans because we shared so many similarities when it came to being on the outs of society or even being racially profiled by a police officer. Who would've thought that these two groups still have problems regardless of how similar they are? Nowadays, black men love to seek spanish women that look European. This affects the black woman as a whole because deep down we feel as if we can't compete with that. The media continues to make black women feel unattractive. Which causes low self esteem when their men date outside their race. It has gotten so bad to the point that black men praise and worship spanish women while disrespecting their own. Since this is happening, more tension between the two groups has formed within...

How Long Should You Wait For Sex? Is Being a virgin Normal anymore?

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In a relationship, you go through your four phases. You have your attraction phase, curiosity phase, couple phase, and commitment phase. Let’s keep it real, we all know that a lot of relationships nowadays only last around curiosity. We live in a sexual society that focuses on the physical. This has affected us so much that staying in a relationship is less important. There is nothing wrong with having a sexual lifestyle. I am worried that having sex is starting to become the only priority. Call me old fashion, but I want to share it with someone I care about. I want to share it with someone I can spend the rest of my life with. Not just with someone I am not serious about. I feel like nowadays people who are virgins get extreme peer pressure. When sex is everywhere, people think it's natural for everyone to have it. Even parents nowadays expect their children to have sex. It has become a big part of our culture where being promiscuous is dominant. So why are some...

What Goes Around Comes Around! The Khloe Kardashian, Jordyn Woods and Tristan Thompson Scandal.

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Khloe Kardashian's boy toy named Tristan Thompson has gotten himself in trouble again. This time with Kylie Jenner's partner and crime Jordyn Woods. Kylie Jenner and Jordyn Woods have been best friends since middle school. These two had a bond that was unbreakable but all that came to a halt. When Jordyn woods and Tristan Thompson were getting close at a party, they started to make out. Which got pretty serious since Jordyn Woods stayed at the house until seven in the morning. Now I know what you are going to say about the situation. How can Jordyn do this to Kylie’s family after all they have done for her? Kylie Jenner has given a lot to Jordyn Woods. She has put her on to the spotlight and has given her a glimpse of what a lavish lifestyle is all about. Let's be serious who in their right mind will give that up. When you’re in a position that everybody wants to be in, you will do anything not to ruin it. So why will Jordyn risk all of her privileges and take K...