How Long Should You Wait For Sex? Is Being a virgin Normal anymore?

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In a relationship, you go through your four phases. You have your attraction phase, curiosity phase, couple phase, and commitment phase. Let’s keep it real, we all know that a lot of relationships nowadays only last around curiosity. We live in a sexual society that focuses on the physical. This has affected us so much that staying in a relationship is less important.
There is nothing wrong with having a sexual lifestyle. I am worried that having sex is starting to become the only priority. Call me old fashion, but I want to share it with someone I care about. I want to share it with someone I can spend the rest of my life with. Not just with someone I am not serious about.
I feel like nowadays people who are virgins get extreme peer pressure. When sex is everywhere, people think it's natural for everyone to have it. Even parents nowadays expect their children to have sex. It has become a big part of our culture where being promiscuous is dominant.
So why are some people who choose not to be promiscuous get attacked for it? What is wrong for still being a virgin past your twenties? What is wrong with building a foundation first before adding sex to it? These questions I always ask whenever a situation with a boy doesn’t work out. These questions I was asking when coming across a scenario that played before my eyes.
One of my classmates was going through a situation with her boyfriend. Things all turned left when she talked about waiting at least two years to have sex. Her boyfriend found a problem with the statement and felt like two years was too long. Let’s be clear, he has his needs since he is sexually active. But for her, she's a virgin, so she wants to take things slow.
She felt like she wanted to make sure that her relationship was 100% solid. Last time she was dumped over the dumbest reason. So she wants to know if her relationship is for real and not just some phase to him. Well he felt it was completely unreasonable and broke up with her.
It sounds like he does not care about her as much. A real man would go do anything for you because, in his head, he knows you are worth it. But in a scenario like this, it seems to me that she isn’t that important to him. It looks like he was just there to have a good time and enjoy the moment.
Just by him not having enough patients for his girlfriend just shows that he believes she is not worth it. What type of relationship is that? When your boyfriend doesn't even care about you the same way you cared about him? Let's be clear sex blinds us from a lot of things we do not see in a person. Most unhealthy relationships get dragged a long for years because of the quality of the sex is good.
This is a bad sign because if you can't take away the sex you have in one day to see if you and your partner are compatible then something is wrong. A relationship can be unhealthy when you just rely on sex especially on the first date. People must check for the other components as well because once you take things serious you will have to deal with it.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin in your twenties or just being promiscuous. As long as you are responsible, who cares. Just don't punish others for wanting something different from you. Everyone does not have the same experiences. We all go at our own paste.

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  1. Charli DeeNovember 24, 2019 at 10:14 PM

    Loved this post. I’m glad you touched on this topic. I think that there is a stigma on being a Virgin past a certain age. There’s this idea that there must be something wrong with with a person who is past their 20s and still a Virgin. I wish we could stop being so judgmental of each other, and stop pressuring each other to conform to certain standards.

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