Bi phobia Why do we not treat others how we want to be treated?
LGBT people have worked their way into acceptance in society. After all the craziness they have been
through, more gays have been coming out. Appearing in shows such as Ru Paul Drag Race,
Empire and etc. Gays have been able to showcase themselves on platforms to be a representation
for the community. But just like in every kingdom, there is always drama underneath the service.
There is always a person that does not get along with the other. Certain people just get along with who
they have in common. People want to be in relationships with someone that understand their point of
you. Not everyone in the LGBT community always understands each other's motives. They find it hard
to trust certain people because they do not know what to expect. I was watching this old
TV show called Tyra.
There was this particular episode where they picked four people from all parts of the LGBT community. Tyra put them in a room to discuss how they really feel about each other. It was a surprise to see how quickly Lesbians and certain parts of the community all attacked the bisexual man. Whenever it came to every activity the group had to do together on the show, it always seemed like the bisexual became to be the last one of choosing.
There was one game that stood out to me the most. Everybody had to pretend to be in a position inside the castle. A lipstick lesbian got to be queen, a gay man was the king, the drag queen was seen as a joker. The last thing that the bisexual got was the lowest position ever and was a homeless man looking from outside.
You would think people in this particular community would understand. But it seems like that's not the case and the majority of the LGBT community does have a norm but up to their standards. Now I know what you are going to ask. Why would they force what's normal in their community but complain about it when it's happening to them in others? I know right, the same question I have too. Another person of the same sex does not feel like their kind is hard to compete with. Since that is the case, they sometimes do not feel like they are a threat. But if competing with the opposite sex, they start to become insecure.
The term Bisexual is an individual who is sexually attracted to both genders. A bisexual has a type in a man and a woman. For Lesbians and gays, they feel that it is very inconvenient for them. They feel as if there is no guarantee a solid foundation. Since they have more options, it gives them more chances of getting hurt. This causes them to lash out at the entire community because of a painful experience.
Whenever there is trouble in their relationship, they automatically think it is their fault because of their sexuality. This can impact a lot in someones identity crisis and can be hard to want to seek treatment. On most occasions, they either don't seek treatment or get anything out of it. This can be pretty dangerous since some bisexuals are suicidal because of a lack of support from both communities. Most of them turn to substance abuse way more than their peers. Just imagine if you couldn’t get any support from anybody. Imagine not having a space to express yourself. There are barely any bisexual spaces as it is. Just by them not having enough space, it is really telling them that there is no way it will ever get better.
When it comes to bisexuals, slut-shaming is always a thing in and outside of the community. This causes an unfair perception of bisexuals and makes them one of the main targets of sexual abuse. According to a website called queerness, Bisexuals are more likely to be sexually abused more than gays and straight people. Offensive terms like easy and slutty contribute to the sexual abuse and also mistreatment that can permanently hurt bisexuals' mindset.
Why people in the LGBT community contribute to the criticism of bisexuals? I can remember a time where gays and lesbians were in the same place. They were fighting their lives in the Stonewall riots just to get some respect. Through all that fighting and standing up for your rights to love, don't you think bisexuals deserve that too? There was a time straight people did the same thing to you. Do you remember how it made you feel when it happened? If you do, why do it to the bisexuals?
Sounds familiar? Well, that is the exact same thing bisexuals feel when you tell them to pick a side. By you not acknowledging the fact that bisexuality is real, is the same as people saying being gay is a choice. This is not true because people are born gay. Can bisexuals be born that way as well? You think they can help themselves being sexually attracted to both genders?
Just like it is natural for you to think about men, it is also natural for bisexuals to think about both genders. People are becoming more open-minded about the LGBT community and are coming out in large numbers. Since we are at a place where being yourself is OK, let's start doing that in our own communities. Why do the opposite? If anyone wants to be accepted, they should spread that to others.
through, more gays have been coming out. Appearing in shows such as Ru Paul Drag Race,
Empire and etc. Gays have been able to showcase themselves on platforms to be a representation
for the community. But just like in every kingdom, there is always drama underneath the service.
There is always a person that does not get along with the other. Certain people just get along with who
they have in common. People want to be in relationships with someone that understand their point of
you. Not everyone in the LGBT community always understands each other's motives. They find it hard
to trust certain people because they do not know what to expect. I was watching this old
TV show called Tyra.
There was this particular episode where they picked four people from all parts of the LGBT community. Tyra put them in a room to discuss how they really feel about each other. It was a surprise to see how quickly Lesbians and certain parts of the community all attacked the bisexual man. Whenever it came to every activity the group had to do together on the show, it always seemed like the bisexual became to be the last one of choosing.
There was one game that stood out to me the most. Everybody had to pretend to be in a position inside the castle. A lipstick lesbian got to be queen, a gay man was the king, the drag queen was seen as a joker. The last thing that the bisexual got was the lowest position ever and was a homeless man looking from outside.
You would think people in this particular community would understand. But it seems like that's not the case and the majority of the LGBT community does have a norm but up to their standards. Now I know what you are going to ask. Why would they force what's normal in their community but complain about it when it's happening to them in others? I know right, the same question I have too. Another person of the same sex does not feel like their kind is hard to compete with. Since that is the case, they sometimes do not feel like they are a threat. But if competing with the opposite sex, they start to become insecure.
The term Bisexual is an individual who is sexually attracted to both genders. A bisexual has a type in a man and a woman. For Lesbians and gays, they feel that it is very inconvenient for them. They feel as if there is no guarantee a solid foundation. Since they have more options, it gives them more chances of getting hurt. This causes them to lash out at the entire community because of a painful experience.
Whenever there is trouble in their relationship, they automatically think it is their fault because of their sexuality. This can impact a lot in someones identity crisis and can be hard to want to seek treatment. On most occasions, they either don't seek treatment or get anything out of it. This can be pretty dangerous since some bisexuals are suicidal because of a lack of support from both communities. Most of them turn to substance abuse way more than their peers. Just imagine if you couldn’t get any support from anybody. Imagine not having a space to express yourself. There are barely any bisexual spaces as it is. Just by them not having enough space, it is really telling them that there is no way it will ever get better.
When it comes to bisexuals, slut-shaming is always a thing in and outside of the community. This causes an unfair perception of bisexuals and makes them one of the main targets of sexual abuse. According to a website called queerness, Bisexuals are more likely to be sexually abused more than gays and straight people. Offensive terms like easy and slutty contribute to the sexual abuse and also mistreatment that can permanently hurt bisexuals' mindset.
Why people in the LGBT community contribute to the criticism of bisexuals? I can remember a time where gays and lesbians were in the same place. They were fighting their lives in the Stonewall riots just to get some respect. Through all that fighting and standing up for your rights to love, don't you think bisexuals deserve that too? There was a time straight people did the same thing to you. Do you remember how it made you feel when it happened? If you do, why do it to the bisexuals?
Sounds familiar? Well, that is the exact same thing bisexuals feel when you tell them to pick a side. By you not acknowledging the fact that bisexuality is real, is the same as people saying being gay is a choice. This is not true because people are born gay. Can bisexuals be born that way as well? You think they can help themselves being sexually attracted to both genders?
Just like it is natural for you to think about men, it is also natural for bisexuals to think about both genders. People are becoming more open-minded about the LGBT community and are coming out in large numbers. Since we are at a place where being yourself is OK, let's start doing that in our own communities. Why do the opposite? If anyone wants to be accepted, they should spread that to others.
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