Body Image. When is your own body good enough?

From slim waist and small ankles to big butts and flat stomachs, we have forever been pressured to fix ourselves to the standard of what is considered beautiful. Since this is happening, more women are telling their daughters that who they are isn’t good enough.

One of the reasons is those unrealistic expectations that are put on women all the time. You never know what the right way is because either way, it will be wrong. That is why women are never satisfied with their looks and tend to go into depression because of it.

Having a slim figure has always been considered the most beautiful all around the world. You cannot blame consumers for being affected. Once you have millions of media outlets telling you your body isn't good enough, you start to believe this yourself.

When you look at celebrities, they are contently changing their look. You would think they would be the most confident people in the world when they are the most insecure. It is hard being in their position because people are looking up to them as perfection. As if they can't be human. It is ridiculous on how hard people can be on these celebrities looks alone. That's why you see a lot of diversity in body shapes now because people have had enough.



Nobody is perfect. We should have role models that are not the example of perfection but a person who understands the struggles of an everyday woman. We love someone honest and open about their struggles because it makes others connect and feel the power for themselves. Since more people are requesting that, the more chance we see. But some are stuck with the same model.



Once you already have that mindset, it is hard to get out of it. For years, commercials have convinced women to look like societies beauty standard. It does not help the situation when it affects our everyday lives. People in our families give us a hard time in creating unnecessary pressure on us to lose weight.



 You know the reason why is because they pay attention to what most men want. They expect women to at least look like these hypersexualized Instagram models. When we all know, that is not reality because let's be honest, you cannot trust everything you see on the internet.



Do not get me started on what type of women they expose on their platforms. It is usually someone slim in the waist and thick in the hips. There is nothing wrong with a man having a preference, but there is a problem when women who do not look like that get shamed for it. Men are known for body-shaming today.



Another example is when Antoine Fuqua was caught kissing another woman called Nicole Murphy in Italy. Since he was still married to Lela Rochon, the internet went crazy. Once the public found out, the story got mixed responses. The females bashed Antoine and Nicole for the affair and Lela Rochon for her weight.



Since she has gained a lot of weight since the old days, men felt like it was understandable for her husband to cheat. Just because your wife is gaining a little weight, doesn’t mean you have to cheat on her. Maybe it is stress or the fact that she had two kids and it gets harder to lose that weight. Whatever the reason is, shouldn’t the husband stick by his wife regardless of her downfalls. Why get with a person if you can’t support them in your relationship?



Yes, it is possible to lose interest in someone. It is better to be upfront with how you feel than waste someone's time. Why stay in a relationship and be unhappy? If you are not attracted to your wife anymore, then leave. I'm sure she will appreciate someone who will accept her for who she is.



Women seem to be more accepting of the weight of plus size men. Why do you think there is always a higher expectation in looks for women? Is it because a woman gains the most attraction just by their looks? Do we pay attention to more of how a woman looks and presents herself more than a man? Maybe so, there are certain things a man can get away with that women can’t.



The main thing with men is the presentation. They can be overweight or a complete nerd. But as soon as they get someone who is perfection on their arm, they are all set. People in society are not too focused on a man’s looks as much as a woman. They mostly look at what that man has and what he can get. What society expects from men is different from women. Body image is not such an issue if you are hyper-masculine, financially set and can get a lot of girls.

It can be something else. According to the website called modern man, it gives you a perspective on what a women's viewpoint is on a man's presence. “Women can feel attracted to a guy’s muscles, but muscles aren’t that important to a woman. What’s most important is how you make her feel when you interact with her. That is why you will see guys who don’t have muscles but do have a hot girl.” You see when it comes down to it, men can depend more on their personality and conversation and not have to depend on looks.



That is why the media can be a dangerous place because we have so much high expectation on women period that we don’t know how it affects them personally. People who say mean things about your weight don’t realize that they are influencing you to eat more.



According to Healthline, it says that “In a study in 93 women, exposure to weight-stigmatizing information made those who were overweight but not normal-weight eat more calories and feel less in control of their eating.” They always say that giving someone tough love helps them suck it up and do better. But based on statistics that is not the case. There is no problem encouraging someone to eat healthier if their condition is terrible, but if all their doing is hurting someone instead of making them do better, maybe it is time for a different approach.