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What Makes a Woman? Cisgender vs transgender long term battle.

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Women are taught on what they are supposed to be since day one. When we were young girls, we are taught how to dress and act. Nobody told us anything different because it would be dangerous to step outside those expectations. Nowadays, people are starting to test the boundaries of what it means to be a woman, and it seems like not everyone agrees with it. For years in the LGBTQ community, they take gender roles and find a way to challenge them. You see them play with the stereotypes on shows like RuPaul’s drag race, but what does it mean? People have been fighting back and forth about what is considered a woman. From Bruce Jenner winning women of the year to Dave Chappelle’s crude jokes on trans women, it seems like we are not on the same page when it comes to the definition. So, what is it? Everyone has their version, which is hard to tell on what’s right or wrong. People in the past have said if you feel like you are a woman, that is what makes you a woman. But what if it is not that
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The Pros and Cons of Working from Home

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Back in the day, whenever you wanted to get a job, you had to go straight to the newspaper. Nowadays, it is easy to find different ways of receiving income. Technology today makes it easier for individuals to make money from home. Especially when you have kids, it can be hard to work around your schedule and still find time for your family. Working from home is not for everybody. Some people prefer to be in an office environment because it will help them focus and give them a chance to network. People work from home because they feel it is more better to do their work on their own time. But with so many things that are happening in the world, it is better to know which one is best for you. Here are the pros and cons of working from home over working in an office. The pros are.... Flexibility When working in an office, you go by a structured schedule. You do not have much freedom when planning projects on your accord. But when you are working from home, you overse
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Toxic Masculinity (How it plays a part in lesbian culture.)

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In the media, we are used to being exposed to heterosexuality as the norm. Since that is the case, it has influenced us to go to those same standards. Even though we are rebelling against the gender roles society gives them, we are still following that same setup uniquely. Usually, in the Lesbian community, certain couples are accepted, such as a fem dating fem or a stud dating fem. But one type of couple that is not excepted is a stud dating a stud. Whenever I would ask why that is, they would automatically verbally attack the situation. I was surprised that they were saying the slurs that sounded the type of slurs straight people would use against them. Why is that the case? People seem to have an interest in couples that fit the heterosexual norm. Since society praises that image, it has been systematically ingrained in them to follow heteronormative standards. In the article ‘Stud for stud’ and the evolution of black Atlanta lesbian dating from Dionne Walker, she discusses black
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Dave Chappelle Controversy. Is it freedom of speech or taking it too far?

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  We all know Dave Chapelle is the king of controversy. He has no shame in speaking his mind whenever it comes to serious topics. Dave Chappelle has a unique way of using his jokes to make people think twice about what is going on in the world around him. Even though you do not like how he dishes it, he has no problem standing in his truth. Not everyone agrees with his point of view and finds his commentary very offensive.  At the beginning of October, Dave Chappelle dropped one of his comedy specials on Netflix called the closer. In the special, he addresses topics such as feminism, covid 19, and good old-fashioned racism. But one of the topics that defiantly got their attention was his jokes towards transgender women.  In the closer, he not only makes fun of their genitals but shares his opinion on the matter in general.  "Gender is a fact. Every human being in this room, every human being on earth, had to pass through the legs of a woman to be on earth. That is a fact." Hi
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Things you can do with your white privilege

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What would you do if you were black? Has anyone asked you that question before? We all have experiences that shape us the way we are. Most of us cannot help the fact our mentality came from other people's opinions of us in the first place. It is common for a person who is white, not to see their privilege. They are not used to having obstacles in their way because of their race. But that does not mean they cannot understand their privilege and educate themselves. Nowadays, we have so many resources to do your research on any topic. It is quite clear that white people get away with a lot of scenarios in life that minorities find obstacles. Even with that privilege, how can individuals use it to help others? Here are the ways you can help. 1. Wages that are affected based on race Since day one, white men in general always got considered getting a higher pay range than other minorities. The racial gap has stemmed from a system where it was made for people of color to fail. Imagine try
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Toxic Parenting within Families of Color. The Difference between Discipline and Abuse.

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When I was growing up, the person who was head of the household was always right in any situation. I usually would shrug it off and blame it on myself. We all need our parents to help us get our shit together. But there is a better way of handling the situation. It has come to the point where it is ok to be downright unnecessary towards your children. Don't get me wrong some kids nowadays need to be straightened out. But when are we going to draw the line saying that this is way too far? Let's be clear, having to experience the number of low blows on a giving basis myself, has put permanent emotional damage over the years. I had to find out what was causing this to continue. It seems to me that I was experiencing a common theme in my life growing up. That theme was emotional and verbal abuse. My entire life, I would never even think about being abused. I just thought it was how the other person knew how to communicate. But it all came to me when I started to sp
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Body Image. When is your own body good enough?

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From slim waist and small ankles to big butts and flat stomachs, we have forever been pressured to fix ourselves to the standard of what is considered beautiful. Since this is happening, more women are telling their daughters that who they are isn’t good enough. One of the reasons is those unrealistic expectations that are put on women all the time. You never know what the right way is because either way, it will be wrong. That is why women are never satisfied with their looks and tend to go into depression because of it. Having a slim figure has always been considered the most beautiful all around the world. You cannot blame consumers for being affected. Once you have millions of media outlets telling you your body isn't good enough, you start to believe this yourself. When you look at celebrities, they are contently changing their look. You would think they would be the most confident people in the world when they are the most insecure. It is hard being in their posi
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